We have heard many times from different instances that only middle-aged women use Facebook. Probably this is in some degree true. I would like to add one group that actually needs Facebook – immigrant women and in some degree also men. Especially I talk about a group consisting of women that live abroad due to different reasons (there are also a couple of men, but majority is made of women). These persons don’t have any family nearby to help, support and give advice. If they are married to a local man, there are only spouse’s relatives nearby. Then the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often very complicated, especially in cultures where family ties are still very close. I have noticed that my Italian friends have problems with their mother-in-laws and therefore I’m not surprised to hear that Finnish women often, not always, have huge problems with their mother-in-laws here in Italy. A Finnish woman is grown to equality, the Italian women in a much lesser degree. So these strong Nordic women are probably some kind of threat to the Italian mothers or maybe just too different.
I belong to a couple of groups that consist of emigrated Finnish women (and of a couple of men). In these groups, you can ask anything and you will always get an answer. If you have problems with your spouse, you can talk about it and others will give their advises in a friendly manner always. When you miss a loved one they will support you, if a new baby is born to a member they will celebrate together. In a real life many immigrants are often lonely, it is not so easy to make friends in a foreign country. You are often considered foreigner no matter how long you have lived in a new country. In these groups, you can talk with persons that have had the same kind of experiences as you have. If you are just so sick of your new home country there is always somebody that helps you see the positive sides, if you have nostalgia to Finland, somebody might send you some Fazer chocolate.
The problem with these virtual groups is that you can never really know the persons behind the names. I have had a possibility to meet some of my virtual friends and they have all been as nice in real life as in virtual life. Maybe we have to get used to the idea that we can have friends that we have never met in real life, but still we tell them our joys and sorrows of life.